Essence.com: It's amazing how children can be so insightful and as a result heal us in the process. Some folks believe you and Mekhi are still at war. Is that true?M.W.: The biggest misconception folks have is that I have beef with my ex-husband. Who has time? I'm a very spiritual person and one of the things I base my life on is the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I always try to keep it positive, and that's with anything--friendships or relationships. What happened between us happened so many years ago it's irrelevant now. Honestly, there is nothing to talk about. Besides, I don't like conflict, never have. I'm a Libra and I love balance.
Essence.com: But wasn't there was a time that you were angry and spoke publicly about what transpired between you two?M.W.: When my marriage broke down I was so angry because I didn't want to stop loving Mekhi. Yes, I wanted to stop living with him and I wanted to stop doing some of the things we did together, but I didn't want to stop loving him so it made me angry because I was struggling. I don't know what I was struggling with probably struggling with myself, but I was like, "I don�t want to stop loving you, so how do I do that?" But the world kept saying we had to fight, we had to go court, we had to be enemies, you know we had to be divorced and all along I kept thinking, I don't want to hate my son's father, I don't want to have disdain for him. I don't want any of those things. So that was the most difficult thing for me to accept. But it came to me one day as I was driving down the street. It was a point when I completely accepted everything for what it was and said, you know what? Nobody can take love from you, only you can take love from you. And when you commit to love someone, you really do commit to love them no matter what and that's what I did. So part of me getting out of that marriage was because I never want to get to the point where I hate somebody.
Essence.com: Did you feel any self-doubt when your marriage failed?
M.W.: I always felt I was as strong as my mother and my grandmother or at least I was on that road. So when my marriage broke down, I felt like it was a weakness. But then I realized that Mekhi and I came together for a reason, and even if our son was the only reason that we came together, we served our purpose together. To this day, I don't look at that as a failure; I look at that as a major achievement and a huge blessing and I thank God for that union. I don't know where I would be today.
Essence.com: I hear you're getting married soon. Who's the lucky guy?
M.W.: (Laughs) Well, I'm the lucky woman. I'll be marrying Derrick "D-Nice" Jones.
Essence.com: As in "my name is D-Nice/I'm taking out you suckas and you don't know how I did it" D-Nice? How long have you known each other?
M.W.: (Laughs) Since we were 18. Derrick Jones, D-Nice.
Essence.com: So did you ever think you�d be marrying your best friend?
M.W.: Never in a million years. I knew he would always be my friend, but some time goes by and you lose touch. Then when you come back together, you realize that you really are different people. We were kids, but then we came together and he was a man and I was a woman, and ultimately that brought us closer together. We've been together three years.
Essence.com: So when's the big day?
M.W.: In August.
Essence.com: So is this it for you? Is he The One?
M.W.: I never say that like you said it. Tomorrow is not promised, so if you stay sort of in the moment it helps to keep you in perspective of where you are, not where you've been and where you're trying to get. And that's what I'm doing now. And I"m in love and happy.
You can check out Malinda in the new comedy
First Sunday, in theaters now. And to read Malinda's entire Essence interview, click
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We all know Malinda Williams is a beautiful and talented actress, starring in such memorable films and television projects such as The Wood, Showtime's Soul Food, but what about the trials and tribulations she's had to endure in her private life...specifically that nasty and much publicized divorce from actor Mekhi Phifer? Well, now Williams is letting her fans in on what's been going on in her life, both personally and professionally...mainly personally. She dishes on what it's like being a single mom (she and Mekhi share an 8 year-old son, Omikaye), her current relationship with Phiffer and why she never wanted to stop loving him...but most importantly how how she found love once again with her best-friend-turned-fiance, D-Nice who has hung up the mic in exchange for photography. (peep the pic on the left)
Essence.com: But wasn't there was a time that you were angry and spoke publicly about what transpired between you two?
Ever wanted to know (or may be just wondered) which celebrities, who seem to have it all, describe as their perfect Christmas and how they intend to make it happen? Well, while searching the Internet I came across a list of cast members--from This Christmas and [that God-awful] Perfect Holiday; 2 holiday movies (released nearly back-to-back) each featuring a black ensemble cast--and in the list below, they each revealed what a perfect holiday season means to them. Some answers may surprise you while others may make you want to say 'Ah, bah, humbug!' and 'Say WHAT?!!'
