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CHILLI CLEARS UP THE MARRIAGE RUMORS: “Well, I would like to set the record straight by saying that there’s some wrong information out there, that you know, Dallas Austin, with whom I have a son with, and I were married and divorced and I want to clear that up. We were never married. I’ve never been married in my life. We were not engaged, nothing like that. We were in a relationship, but never married or anything like that, never. So I definitely want to clear that up because that’s, marriage is a big thing. Marriage, a divorce, all that stuff is major and to kind of get something like that wrong about someone is like serious, so I felt like that’s definitely something that you know I want to clear up because it’s not true.....
I assumed that everyone has known that I’ve never been married because otherwise I would‘ve talked about it. I definitely would’ve said that. You would’ve known if I had been married at any point in my life, you know. That’s not something that I would’ve ever kept a secret. Not me, personally, you know. To each his own, but I wouldn’t have done anything like that so I was just surprised when that part came out on the Behind The Music. I was like whoa, whoa, wait a minute, I’ve never been married before and how’d they get that information? Where’d they get it from? So they’re fixing it is what I’m told to take that out and been very apologetic and all that stuff, so you know, but I wanted to just clear it up myself and let people hear from me that you know it’s definitely not true.”
CHILLI ON HER PLANS FOR THE SECOND SEASON OF HER REALITY SHOW: "We’re actually, I start shooting in September and I’m so excited about that and I’m really, really, really excited about the second season. I can’t tell you too much. I’m just looking forward to it. The very first time that I did this show you know I was very nervous because people thought that it was gonna be your typical find love kind of show where I’m in a house with a whole bunch of guys and all that kind of stuff. You know once people were able to see my show and that it was very different in that area then I’m comfortable now because people really enjoy the show and I think that I speak up for so many women, strong independent women that’s looking for an amazing guy, which is really hard to find.”
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NIA ON WHY WE HAVEN'T SEEN HER ONSCREEN IN OVER TWO YEARS: "Work has been slow for me. I think it's been slow for everybody. But certainly it's been slow for me, but there's two reasons for that. One, is because I have no desire to repeat performances and to do the same things over and over again. I've been very careful and selective, and I also wanted to take this year to do some very personal growth. So I wanted to take time out for myself and really work on some personal things. Every now and then you have to take a step back and look at what you've accomplished, and when things slow down that's when you really have to do the work. When you see actors and artists on the red carpet, you're seeing the manifestation of something they worked really hard for. So if you don't have the downtime to create and focus in on your next creative venture, you really become depleted.
I've been in this business for over twenty years. I have been consistently working since I was about seventeen-years-old, this year I turn 40! I feel so good, I feel accomplished. I feel whole. I feel like a woman, I don't feel like a girl anymore. I feel really proud of what I've done, but I also feel very clear about what the next five years of my life are going to be like. And I had to take this years to really get my mind around what I wanted and how to execute the plan. You can't do anything without a plan. And so that's what I'm kinda doing right now."
NIA ON TEACHING HER SON THE IMPORTANCE OF RESPONSIBILITY & GIVING BACK: "I just left Fiji where I did a bunch of community service on the island. We went and mentored children, and we had a chance to really see and understand the village life and what these young children go through. We try to give them something to hold on to because they live under very poor circumstances. Some of them have to swim across a river just to get to school. So I took my son and it was just a life changing experience for him because he didn't really understand what poor meant until he got there. So I try to teach him that giving back is the biggest thing you can do in life because there is always somebody in need of something...I also know my son is watching my every move and I want him to be a good man. I want him to be an amazing professional, whatever he chooses to do. And I want him to be an amazing husband and father."
CHILLI ON WHY WOMEN SHOULD HAVE A "MEN" CHECKLIST & HOW SHE REMAINS TRUE TO HERSELF: It's good to have standards. You can have your list, and whatever is on your list is realistic. I have a super duper long list and everything I have on there is realistic and workable. I think men need to understand that...I wear my feelings on my sleeve. Whether I want people to see it or not, I'm very true to myself and what I want. If I feel myself about to cry I'm not about to hold back my tears. I think it benefits everybody to not hold in your emotions. Stress is a killer...I am a real solid chick. Over the years people have always told me I 'm nice, because I am, but at the end of the day, I know what I want. I can be stern when I need to be."
CHILLI ON HER PERSONAL CHECKLIST & WHY SHE STICKS TO HER STANDARDS: "There are so many!! A guy has to be a Christian, he has to be physically fit, he has to have his looks on point, to my liking anyway, he has to be a non-drinker, a non-smoker, charming, funny...just to name a few. I know we only have so much time for this interview....You just have to have standards. When I have compromised my standards, it didn't get me anywhere. It caused extra headaches and pain. You have to make compromises, but when it comes to my standards, I stick with it."
LISARAYE ON WHY SHE'S ATTRACTED TO POWERFUL MEN, LOVES BEING SPOILED: "My whole life has been a fairytale. Every man that I have ever dated has always been powerful, had money and been generous to me. He (her ex-husband) was just the next in line. It was like this is how I am supposed to treated. My father was my first introduction to power. I am attracted to power. So when people always ask me why you always date a man with money, why in the hell wouldn't I? I have my own lifestyle, it's like, I'm not going for less than what I have. If I can't be spoiled because he is not that generous, loving and caring, I don't want you. Go to the next one. I can wait. I don't know what it is not to be pampered and spoiled. I don't even want to try it. That's like saying to me, I'ma be broke. What do you mean? What? No. That don't work for me. That's not an option for me. I've never been that."
LISARAYE ON HER FALLOUT WITH STAR JONES & VIVICA & WHY SHE HAS SINCE REACHED OUT TO THEM: "Star had my damn back. She is a friend, a confidante and the bitch is smart. I never realized it was a problem until I looked up on day and realized I hadn't spoken to her in so long that I was like, 'Damn, where is she?' Then I started hearing about the little shit that Vivica was saying--that I f*cked it up for all of us--I guess black women, or whatever--and I am thinking, why wouldn't she say these things to me? I said, 'Well, tell her to use her own influence to get what the f*ck she wants to get!" Never did I think that anything that I was going through would affect you and your career so much. Sorry." *Kanye shrug* I have reached out to both of them and asked what happened and what is their definition of a friendship. Where are they? I know a New York Daily News article came out saying that my new reality show was about revenge and airing out our dirty laundry, but I'm too grown for all of that. I would never tell any of my friends' business, even if we aren't friends anymore. There is no interest for me in that."
DEELISHIS ON NOT HAVING A BIG, LAVISH WEDDING: "I couldn't. I put it like this: I wouldn't. I had decisions to make if I was going to take the work that was coming or if I was going to sacrifice the work to do the wedding. Since I was a little girl, I was like most little girls who, when they grow up, want this huge wedding. It's the most important day of their lives. But by this time it was important for me to make sure that I was making the right decisions for my career. Our marriage was going to be there regardless of the wedding. So I don't know if it's a part of my growth and maturity but I was okay with not having the wedding...There was no wedding. It was a straight-up marriage. We just had a judge and a couple of witnesses. It was quick 'cause let me tell you this: the day that I actually did it, later on that evening I was on set. Myself, Garrett Morris and Joe Torry were working on a film called Pawn Shop. It's a comedy. I was getting paid by the day, so I was back on set later on."
DEELISHIS ON WHY THEY DECIDED TO HAVE A CHILD TOGETHER: "We had been trying. We tried for a little while. I said I was going to work on my album and I wasn't going to do a reality TV for a while. And I was constantly getting work as far as hosting parties, but that was not something I wanted to do permanently. So I said, 'Well, you know what? I'm going to really go hard with my music, and I'm going to go really hard with film. I'm going to audition for any and everything that I think is good for me in movies.' So I said, 'Listen, I may as well have my babies now--or my baby.' I wanted at least one more because Jasmine is 10 years old and I wanted another baby and I made that very clear while we were dating. Just in casual conversation he would ask, 'Do you want any more children?' I would say yes and I would ask him how many he wanted. He said, 'Well, maybe one or two. We both came from the same background mentally where we didn't want a host of children, but we did want one together. He has a 5-year-old daughter and I have a 10-year-old."
DEELISHIS ON HOW THEIR RELATIONSHIP TURNED INTO MARRIAGE: "I wanted a marriage, but what he wanted was he didn't want to change. Orlando has always had--I won't say a fear of commitment--but he never was required to be in a commitment when he dated other women. Yeah, he's gorgeous and he takes care of his business. You know what I'm saying? He's a go-getter. He doesn't want to be without, so he handles his business as a man and I really love that about him. And I know most women had to in the past, so they never required that he commit to them. So I asked him when we got together, I said, 'Well, you know that not who I am. I have to make sure that this is something that makes sense. And I don't care how promiscuous the picture, the web site, the video, whatever you see of London, I'm a well-adjusted person and I have a daughter. So I don't care what you ever heard of me, you've never heard a long line of accusations of men when it related to me, and I wanted to keep it that way.' I think the rumor that you may have heard was Allen Iverson, and that was unfortunate. I told him I needed that security within our relationship. So, he said, 'Okay, I think you're worth it, and I'll give you that.'
So we became boyfriend and girlfriend. Then eventually he was like, 'Okay, let's spend the rest of our lives together.' So, I said, 'Okay, when you put an engagement ring on someone's finger, especially mine, you make sure that it's not just to keep me still. You have to put a marriage behind that.' I would always tell him how fruitful our household and our lifestyle would be. If you give God what He wants, He'll give you what you want. So he said, 'I don't want marriage to change us. If you believe that we have to be married for the sake of God being okay, then that's fine.'"